Elvis - A Lighted Candle

[Wanda June Hill]

Thanks kids; I don't "blame myself", it's just that sometimes I think why didn't I do this or that and it bothers me. I know there wasn't anything I could do except be there and listen if he needed someone to do that. I wonder at times now, especially when I read and hear that he was "never alone" where were these girls and etc: who were supposed to be sleeping with or sitting with him when he was on the phone and said he was "alone". Were they sleeping? Were they even there? I wonder and I'll never know, not that it matters now anyway. I kind of think I shut it all down and put it way back in a "box in my mind" somewhere for those many years after1982-83 because it was driving me nuts wondering so many things. Now, it seems to be better but I still sometimes have to find something else to do and shove it all back again. I haven't worked on Face to Face for some weeks now-my printer died, my computer is "iffy" and I just haven't been emotionally in the mood I guess to do much on it. I needed a break and maybe that's why my machines took a sudden turn for "death". I was working way into the night and off and on for hours all day until my eyes began to go- I get the new glasses the 18th and I'll be soooo glad to see good again! It's so funny, I didn't even know what the name of the frames were I chose-they fit well, my eyelashes did not touch the glass and that was it for me. Then I find out they were "Sophia Loren" glasses!
Is that weird or not? The sun glass frames turned out to be her name too! Now is that funny or not? Kind of like some kind of "omen" as he would say, or something.
And while I was in the office I heard several of his songs being played throughout the offices. I said something to one of the girls there and they said it was the first time they had heard any Elvis songs and the music was "canned" what ever that means. Like elevator music I guess, it is provided by some company? Anyway it was a unique experience that day. wjh

[Di]

I think you being there to listen Wanda was worth more to him than anything else. As I have said before I am so glad that he had you to talk to. After 1977 when all those books came out I use to wonder where was everybody and did he have someone who truly cared. Well I don't know where the rest of "them" were but know in you he had someone who truly cared and who really loved him no matter what and he knew it. What you gave him was priceless and I know you feel the same about him. Never think about why didn't you do this and that. You were there for him and I truly believe his life was meant to be played out the way it did no matter how much it hurts to think about.

Without a doubt he was with you with the eyeglasses and it must be a comfort to feel him around.

Di

[Rainbow Light]

Absolutely agree, Di with all said above!

I haven't worked on Face to Face for some weeks now-my printer died, my computer is "iffy" and I just haven't been emotionally in the mood I guess to do much on it. I needed a break and maybe that's why my machines took a sudden turn for "death". I was working way into the night and off and on for hours all day until my eyes began to go- I get the new glasses the 18th and I'll be soooo glad to see good again! It's so funny, I didn't even know what the name of the frames were I chose-they fit well, my eyelashes did not touch the glass and that was it for me. Then I find out they were "Sophia Loren" glasses!
Is that weird or not? The sun glass frames turned out to be her name too! Now is that funny or not? Kind of like some kind of "omen" as he would say, or something.

The new glasses sound fantastic and glad you will be able to see real good again soon! "Sophia Loren" glasses, huh?! I really feel that you were meant to have the break you needed and perhaps Elvis, in his way of caring and protecting those he loves, had something to do with your computers too to ensure you had the time you needed, both physically and emotionally, who knows?!

[MaryInTheMorning]

I completely agree with everything Di and Sue said above! Elvis always did and always will look out for you and love you!!! You gave him the one thing it seemed that he was needing especially during the times when most others were letting him down---GENUINE FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE. You can't ever go wrong when you give someone a priceless gift like that. Embrace that knowledge with all your heart whenever you think you could have said or done something differently and try and have peace knowing he wouldn't want you to have any regrets.

[Rainbow Light]

[quote]Elvis always did and always will look out for you and love you!!! You gave him the one thing it seemed that he was needing especially during the times when most others were letting him down---GENUINE FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE. You can't ever go wrong when you give someone a priceless gift like that. Embrace that knowledge with all your heart whenever you think you could have said or done something differently and try and have peace knowing he wouldn't want you to have any regrets.

Right on, Mari - agree 100%! You expressed this so beautifully, everything and in particularly that highlighted in violet, is what I was most touched by, is absolutely beautifully said! I would imagine that Wanda would obtain much comfort and reassurance from what you have said here!

[vixen]

Hi all,

I have not been on the site for a while so I am catching up with much reading and am glad to be back where I can share my interest of Elvis with people who feel the same.

Wanda, if only all the people around him were like you - kind, caring, sensitive and a true true friend with no hidden agenda - I am sure he would still be with us. That would just be amazing, wouldn't it?

I know many people have their opinions on Priscilla and Elvis and what happened with them and there are many who seem to break them both down. I came across a website the other day called SimplyCilla.com, I am not sure if you have been on it, probably have, but anyway I took a squiz and it was rather interesting to hear what she had to say. It is such a fascinating and heart breaking situation and it often goes through my mind and it is almost such a tragedy and such a great love story, if I can put it like that.

It must have been so hard for her to realise that they were just so different and leading such different lives and it just would not and could not work. I know they both had their faults and they did things that probably hurt each other and they probably should not have done a number of things but that is life and we are all human and I guess at the time, they did what they thought they needed to do. I don't blame either of them. It was just like that.

I wonder if Elvis was still alive would he and Cilla be back toether, could they maybe have found a way to figure it all out. There is no doubt in my mind that even when they got divorced they still loved each other. That maybe somehow the pressure was off and they were both in a better place - not so much Elvis obviously as he had lost his wife, which I think he knew has something to do with him and the fact that he was away a lot and that he was on a mission and the like. Please know that I am not putting him down but Wanda I am sure you know what I mean.

Why is it that Elvis and Cilla are so fascinating? Why has Elvis become more of an icon as each year goes bye, it is truely amazing and boy would I have liked to have grown up in those times. Unfortunately he died the year I was born :( .....

Wanda, how do you think Priscilla deals with all her unanswered questions and all her thoughts. I know it has been many years but do you think she has been able to kind of get closure. Surely there are so many stories written and opinions fly all over they place.

I read somewhere that Prscilla only wrote the book Elvis and Me because of some book that was written about Elvis and it literally tore him apart and she did not want Lisa to have to deal with that. She wanted the world to know and Lisa of course that Elvis was a kind, generous and loving person and that he was not like they said he was.

I never got the book and I believe that you can still hear by the tone of the book that Priscilla was still pretty cut up over everything. Even though she was with Mike Stone I am sure she still loved Elvis and I am sure still hurting.

Wanda, how do you put it all away in a box? It has got to be so difficult, how do you try and put it all in perspective and how do you try to cope with all the information that is spued out all the time. How do you know what is true or not?

Do you keep in contact with anyone from that time? Do you ever speak to Priscilla?

I know this is probably such a long and boring letter and I am sure you have been through all of this before and have heard the same thing over and over again but I am such a new fan that I like to just get as much information as possible and find out what really went on.

I just am so in awe of this whole saga and it is on my mind a lot.

Hope I am not too much of a pain..... :)

Vixen

[Amanda Viola]

Vixen, welcome back! Excuse me if I write this just after your questions to Wanda. She will answer you probably, but I wished to comment on the last posts:

If only we could be able to look at the past with love and acceptance, without judgement, we would bring PEACE to the present, thus planting the seeds of the future in a fertile soil to grow.

If we were to be born to this reality perfectly wise, we would not learn anything. Shadow appears so we may learn about Light. To accept our own ignorance looking at the past is an act of Love, of Compassion and Understanding, as much as to accept the ignorance of others.

If all of us human beings could look at his/her life and forgive faults and fears, can you imagine what a mantle of Peace would be extended all around?

[Lighthouseseeker]

some happenings which could effect our lives ,not always deserved to be called divine or fate or natural or not easily acceptable ..and when some certain individuals(people in our life) are related to those happenings even our forgiveness can't make any major difference..in Elvis's case I feel, yes only feel some forced ,unnatural ,some kinda made up interruptions ,beginning with his army duty or even before this(business wise) occurred to change his pace on purpose,can't help I see his marriage as one of those things....well, they (WHOEVER THEY ARE)failed to a point but there's still a gap in my mind and soul as if it was a sudden and improper ending of a film...yet he is still working on the project ..

[Wanda June Hill]

Hi Vixen, Glad you're back! I try to be balanced as I can because that's what Elvis asked of his friends, I think. He tried so hard to be understanding, to listen, see their needs and look past their wants...it's hard to do. I have trouble at times and lose my "cool" but it comes back to being what I think a friend should be-and that is to listen to whom ever the other friend is and try to help by doing that and if they ask advice try to give the best you can. And not go prying into their private lives, or spreading things about them. I kept quiet so long while he was here, and had I not, he wouldn't have bothered to call back. Thankfully I was smart enough to figure that out pretty quickly!
I think that Priscilla has suffered alot over the whole thing, and that she was just too young in the beginning and Elvis was entirely too sure he could handle it all for all those years on his own. He wasn't easy to live with, we can all see that now and he wasn't exactly a normal nine to five kind of guy anyway. He made mistakes, said so and so did she, and said so as much as she can.
Elvis' primary goal was to spare his daughter every way he could-he didn't want her to think badly of her mother and he wanted her to know it was "his fault" and nothing she did...he was the oldest, the one in charge and he didn't handle it right. That's what he said and thought. It was not meant to be-but Lisa had to be born so I guess it was for that purpose they two came together. That and they made such a beautiful couple, were the "king and queen" for a while and looked the part. He loved her, she loved him, but his life was devoted to music-he had a lover- that career and it wasn't going to give him up. In the end, it "ate him up" and he did what he had to do to keep above water...like most good people do in life.
They remain so popular because they were beautiful people, he the ideal male and she the ideal female of that time. It was a fairytale kind of time back then, things were pretty good in the US and except for a few conflicts and wars going on, things were growing and doing well for most people of that time. And Elvis was the King-the measuring stick for many people who grew up with him. That won't ever die as long as some of us are still alive and then it will live on like a "myth" and a "fairytale" time in world history. Like it ought to, really.
Bye, keep readin'....wjh

[Rainbow Light]

Great to have you back Vixen, welcome!

Amanda and Wanda, thank you both for your insightful, caring and thorough responses to Vixen's queries!

[MaryInTheMorning]

Welcome back Vixen! Glad to see you back again. Sue, I echo your thanks to Amanda and Wanda for their wonderfully loving, insightful and well-balanced responses to Vixen's questions. Also am glad you liked what I said to Wanda in my post above. Hope it does bring her some peace and comfort.

[Rainbow Light]

Hope it does bring her some peace and comfort.

Am sure that it will!