Elvis - A Lighted Candle

[guest]

Reading that book by the mm, and elvis, and they said that after the lisa marie was born, he didn't want to be with priscilla anymore, so please somebody fill me in on the turth here, did he or did he not love her at all.

[Wanda June Hill]

Dear Guest, there are lots of things on this site about that but to be brief, Elvis loved Priscilla. He wanted to have more kids with her. He tried to be a good husband but his work was keeping him busy mentally, physically and emotionally at the time Lisa was tiny, a new born. He loved his child and his wife very much, and was devastated when his marriage broke up. He was too busy, he said, trying to get his career back, trying to keep money coming in because his movies and his records were not making the grade any longer. He was "withering on the vine" and he had to get it back or lose their life style. He said because of that he didn't notice how lonely Pris was, how miserable she was alone so much with just the baby and new babies sleep alot. She thought he wasn't interested in her anymore and because he wasn't coming home (he was working on the tv special that was do or die for his career he said) she believed what she heard about him cheating on her etc:. I think the tales the mm guys tell and told back then, were just to cause trouble for her because she didn't want them around the house keeping Elvis away from her. She didn't mince words or her feelings and Elvis was influenced by her alot. He sent them packing-so she, he and the baby could be a "real family" without a herd of "uglies" around all the time. Anyway, it all boiled down to Elvis didn't want to have another child right away, he felt that Priscilla needed time with Lisa and that a year or so would be about right. -he thought the pill was wrong, that it hurt young women and later on people would know that-(he was correct-it did and I'm proof of that along with many other women my age who were the guina pigs for those first pills) So what ever Priscilla said earlier about they didn't have sex she has changed recently to "we did other things" and that "Elvis was very creative" etc:...as she said in an interview not too long ago... Elvis would have expected her to listen to him and accept what he said...that was his way, how he was taught. She thought he was cheating, so she cheated-- with more than one guy-Elvis was so hurt . He couldn't look at her and not remember the other guys...some guys are double standard thinkers. Lots of men are that way-lots of women are also...even when they are deeply in love-they cheat for various reasons, often one or the other can't forget and so it ruins everything eventually. Elvis had his wife on a pedestal so high it was not something a normal young woman could live up to under the circumstances. And he realized that eventually. He accepted all the blame for everything and said it wasn't her fault. In some ways he was right, in others he wasn't, but he said he was the one to blame...not her. He said she was a good mother, tried to please him, he loved watching her with his baby, he loved watching her keeping house, being the little wife etc: and he adored her from almost the minute he laid eyes on her. Yes, Elvis loved his wife, unfortunately for them both, too many other people shared their lives and there were too many gossips and tale wagers out for themselves. Elvis was more fun single...they could party all the wanted...no wives around to cause problems without Pris coming over to see Elvis. Girlfriends didn't count... Then when Elvis was getting too into Linda and his religion interests-and trying to keep them from paryting so much...kept them singing with him all night-well, they fixed that too. He didn't drink, but he used sleeping pills and had since the late 50's (he had always had trouble sleeping-even as a child) so it was easy for them. If he's asleep, it's anything goes...he'll never know. It is my opinion that Elvis would tell the guys that he chose to leave Priscilla-the macho side of him and the protector side of him would cause him to do that and he would have come up with a good reason-and blame himself. It was better for his child to hear later, he didn't want his baby to read bad stuff about her mother-he thought it more acceptable if it was her father-because that's how men are- Knowing Elvis' way of thinking, that would be his take on the whole thing. Toward the last of his life, he had hope that she would come back and they could be a family again. He had got over being so angry, he still loved her and she loved him, but it didn't work out that way. He said he never wanted to be that close to any woman ever again and he also said, she was his wife and she always would be in his heart. wjh

[Wanda June Hill]

Keep in mind also that Elvis passed a lie dector test when he was sued by a young woman (Pat Parker) who said he was the father of her baby. A court ordered lie dector test...and when the baby was born he submitted to a blood test that proved he was not the father. That was after he had been playing Vegas and Priscilla had already had her affairs going on. She discovered that Elvis had not lied but it was a little too late by then. They were on the verge of splitting up...she was dating and so was he....in an "open" marriage kind of thing...that didn't last long. Elvis was jealous. wjh

[Rainbow Light]

Thanks for your clear clarification and balanced reply, Wanda!

[maria]

i dont thing that elvis love cilla as much as everyone thinks and in 1976 he was back with lucybut she said that she was only a phone call away and that he had cilla and his baby to thing about but by christmas he was on the phone to her and he was down

[Wanda June Hill]

She refused to come back and shined him on pretty much-he didn't tell her about his health, emotional or any other problems...macho stuff again...and he was very down in 76 and 77 for more than one reason...a lot of things were falling apart for him and he felt bad too.
He couldn't keep things together like he wanted, he wasn't able to "fix things" and make them work and he was very lonely. But he did love Priscilla, she was the only one he married, had a child with and for that reason alone, he would love her. He had given up on every being a ble to fix that, and he had given up on ever being married and having a family -a normal one- that was a dream that was torn apart and it hurt him...but he couldn't change things. it was too late. I don't know about Lucy-he never talked about any one of that name and so I can't say anything about it. He knew lots of people, he spoke to them by phone and some were from his past as well as his present. It was his business and his alone. I hope he had many people who could help him cope, he certainly didn't have it at home-and he couldn't worry his dad. So good for him, if he was able to keep friends as he said he had some all over that he liked to talk to and find out what's going on..out there.
wjh

[Guest]

sorry i ment 1967

[Wanda June Hill]

In l966 Elvis was very depressed, but by December of 67
he had asked Priscilla to marry him and he was happy and said that he promised to "wait for her" now that they were engaged and he was proud of himself for having kept that promise-maybe why she was pregnant the first few days after their wedding. He wanted God's blessings on his marriage and he believed the way to gain them was to follow the Bible's teachings about keeping your woman a virgin until the wedding, and that's what he did- she said it and so did he and I believe him. He even laughed about the fact they were pg so fast-and contributed it to having abstained for 4 months as he'd promised her...So he said, "I was a "loaded" gun 'n hit the target!" And he giggled about it because he was so happy that he was going to have a child-quicker than he expected but he was ready for that. Then she became unhappy and worried about it so soon into their marriage and talked about an abortion. Elvis was beside himself, he was stuttering he was so upset and he wondered if she was right and if they should wait and spend more time together-but he said, we already spent so many years-why wait? He didn't understand but he wanted her to be happy above all else-he was always putting other people ahead of himself and he sure did there. But she changed and so did he and then he was so anxious and said it was a girl, she came to him in a dream and he said she would be a little doll and of course she was and he was right again. He wanted more kids, always said he would like to have 5 or 6, whatever his wife would be happy with-if things were okay with her and all of that and he said she said she would like to have several kids also, and they talked about that-making Graceland a big playground for all of them etc:. And then she decided she didn't want to live in Tennessee, liked LA better and because he was still doing movies, he was okay with that for a while. And too, she told him schools were better equiped for Lisa's sake in LA and he bought into that too. So they stayed there... Then when they separated he kept the house where Lisa had been raised so she would have roots-a place that was home to her-and close to her mom too.
They were together as a family quite often, I have to say they did a good job around Lisa being a "loving couple" and as she says, she didn't notice they weren't married or together as he was always gone a lot and she was often with one or the other as her mom traveled also.
And he would take her to school or pick her up when in town and she stayed with him-she said and he said it too, she (we, he change it to) always cry when she has to go or I do...Gawd... sometimes I can't get that out of my mind an' -an' its hell tryin' to think of somethin' else. Sometimes just want to run back home and get her."
He cried alot over Priscilla too, and blamed himself for being a "blind fool" and not seeing what he had done to her. I know that in 67 he was very happy about getting married although he worried about it and his career and also, if he was doing the right thing. He knew deep down that he was going to be gone alot, and he also knew how she wanted to "lock me in a room and her have the only key" and he couldn't live that way. She didn't like staying in Vegas a month with the baby or being gone from the baby either-it's too bad he didn't find a woman who could handle that life-happily. But other than Linda, I don't think he found any who would stay and not be the only one with him. He just didn't want to get that close to any female again...he said that several times. He said, "It hurts too much, too many complications an' I'm just not ready to do that again. Maybe never." wjh

[Rainbow Light]

Feel very sorry that the wedding turned out to be how it was and not perhaps how Elvis and Priscilla (perhaps being too young to realise she had more options?, she went ahead with what was offered?) would have had, something in a better setting than the Aladdin in Vegas?! It must have been hurtful for him as so many things turned out even though he did seem to have a rose-colored view of life his way sometimes?!